I’m in my thirties, currently expecting my third baby, and I often feel like I take a different path than many others. When I was pregnant with my first child, I didn’t even want to go to the ultrasound. I felt like it was a test — a way to check if my baby was genetically “perfect” enough to exist. Everything turned out fine, but that feeling stayed with me.
When I became pregnant with my second child, I followed the expectations society places on pregnant women — of course you go to the screenings, the tests, the check-ups. Early in the pregnancy, we learned that our baby had Down’s syndrome. It was a big shock. I cried a lot and felt overwhelmed by fear. But my partner and I knew instantly: we wanted this child.
Not everyone understood our decision. The midwife told me she couldn’t wrap her head around why I would continue the pregnancy — that no one would choose this. People around us openly said they wouldn’t keep the baby if they were in my place.
Now that child is everyone’s favorite — a true ray of sunshine. He brings joy to us and to so many others. He waves to people, smiles, and has a magical ability to make the whole world smile back. I will definitely share more about this part of our journey in future posts.
With our third baby, we’ve decided to say “no” to all screenings and ultrasounds. A baby is a baby — whoever they are meant to be.
What are your thoughts on this? I’d love to hear about your pregnancy experiences.
You are not alone in this.
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